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Written in the Stars, by Kate Rose

Written in the Stars: The Astrology of Soulmate, Karmic, and Twin Flame Relationship, by Kate Rose
New World Library, 1608689158, 296 pages, September 2024

Have you ever wondered if you were compatible with someone based on your astrology charts? Until recently most astrological compatibility books have been based on sun signs, but focusing only one aspect of the chart doesn’t give the whole picture. This is especially true when you begin to understand there’s different types of relationships we experience in life. Not all relationships are the same; people come into our lives for different reasons at different seasons. And learning to decode astrological energy is one of the best ways to gain more insight into your romantic life and the nature of your relationships.

Written in the Stars: The Astrology of Soulmates, Karmic, and Twin Flame Relationships by Kate Rose is one of the most interesting books I’ve ever read on the topic of romance and astrology. Rose, an experienced astrologer and relationship coach, delves into the astrological aspects that influence romantic connections. She provides readers with a unique blend of practical advice and spiritual wisdom, offering guidance on how to navigate the complexities of love. Through an exploration of the intricate dance between fate and personal choice in the realm of love and relationships, readers become empowered to trust the flow of relationships as they have a cosmic purpose to fulfill.

“The cosmos is always waiting for you to read the ancient code of astrology like braille on your heart that’s been starved for hope, knowing that once you do, your soul opens to see clearly and choose differently.”1

Rose identities three types of love: soulmate, karmic, and twin flame. There’s a section dedicated to each type, along with the relevant astrological aspects that influence that type the most. And it’s the combination of type of love with astrological backing that yields fascinating insights into one’s relationships. There’s a lot to discover, whether or not you’re currently in a relationship, because you’ll start to reflect on how your relationships up until now have progressed or repeated patterns, offering insight into the type of lessons you’re learning through love.

According to Rose, soulmate relationships are usually most people’s entry into love, representing when we think love should look like. She describes how “it can feel like you’re with your best friend because there are little to no challenges, but that is also why there is rarely any growth.”2 A key lesson for this type of relationship “is that what is best for your is not what is most like you but, rather, what complements you.”3 To guide readers through identifying a soulmate and delving deeper into their chart, Rose teaches about Saturn, Mercury, and the dynamic between the Sun and the Moon in compatibility. 

Next, there’s karmic relationships. These are the uncomfortable ones that hit you like a bolt of lightning. There’s no denying the chemistry, but there’s also plenty of challenges to overcome as you learn to honor your truth, healing old wounds, discovering your self worth, and relate in a healthy way to your partner. It can often take years of a karmic on-again, off-again situation to fully integrate the lessons. Rose writes, “This feeling of not being able to escape the connection is one of the hallmark traits of the karmic relationship.”4In this section Rose teaches the astrological signatures of the South Node, how to find balance by looking at the elemental make-up of one’s chart, and archetypes one moves through as they mature, and how to use astrology to heal childhood wounds.

“It’s when your truth aligns with the truth of another, when both of you have removed your masks and you’re standing free as sovereign beings under the light of the full moon ready to go all in, that love finally finds you.”5

The last section is dedicated to twin flame love, or “healthy divine love” as Rose also calls it. She refers to this stage as the “soft love era”6 “where you open to receive a love that genuinely does feel like home–even if it’s a home you have never before known.”7 Astrologically, Rose teaches about the placements of Venus and the North Node and the Rising sign in one’s chart. These can point the way towards living an authentic life where you are seen, valued, and loved for being exactly who you are.

One strength of this book is Rose’s ability to balance spiritual growth with practical relationship advice. The real-life examples and anecdotes she shares add a relatable and human touch to the astrological concepts. No matter where you are in your love journey, Rose provides guidance, hope, and a promise there’s an amazing future ahead. She also consistently reminds readers that all our love relationships have happened exactly when they were meant to, offering the lessons needed at that time.

“Nothing is lost, and nothing is wasted, because as you surrender into the arms of love, time evaporates in the fulfillment of understanding.”8

Her empowering messages resonate throughout the book, making it not just a guide to astrology, but a manual for healing, personal growth, and self-discovery. In each section, there are blank charts readers can fill in their astrological placements alongside their partner’s for comparison as they learn about astrological signatures from Rose. And at the end of each section, there’s journal prompts, affirmations, and moon rituals that the reader can do. These  practical exercises and reflection questions really help to deepen their understanding of the material and apply it to one’s own life. This book truly offers a deep dive into your natal chart and the charts of those you love.

Overall, Written in the Stars is a thoughtful and enlightening book that offers valuable insights into the interplay between astrology and relationships. Rose’s compassionate and knowledgeable approach to relationships makes it a worthwhile read for anyone interested in exploring the cosmic influences on their love life. I have gained so much insight by looking back on my past relationships to see how the different partners were a reflection of what I was moving through personally at different stages of life; I also had great discussions with my husband while reading that opened up new layers of intimacy in our relationship. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this book is sure to provide revelations about your love life and point the way towards cultivating healthy divine love.

Holy Love, by Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley

Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships, by Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley
New World Library, 160868802X, 224 pages, February 2022

Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships by Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley is a collaborative project between a couple who began their spiritual paths as individuals, but discovered the infinite depths of divine love through their relationship. As partners with children, Elisa and Adam help couples connect with their own Souls, and with one another’s, to transform relationships and bring about a state of mystic union with the divine love that flows outward from every Soul.

Reading through the first few sections of Holy Love, it’s easy to get the impression that, like so many other spiritual and New Age-y texts, this book is going to be a repetition of familiar ideas and platitudes. I’m happy to say, however, that I was pleasantly surprised by the depth of attention this book gives to elucidating the various relationships we have with other people, or with distinct aspects of ourselves.

The main focus of Holy Love is that we need to recognize how these different aspects – notably, the ego and the Soul – relate to one another within ourselves, as well as how they relate to these aspects within others. In fact, the central thesis of the book is that there are four unique kinds of relationships that can exist between two people. Whether the people in question are romantic partners, family members, friends, or perhaps even strangers, the four kinds of relationships are always in a dynamic interplay with one another.

Unfortunately, and for many reasons, only a couple – or even just one – of these relationships tends to be our primary focus. Of the four kinds of relationship – ego-to-ego, ego-to-Soul within ourselves, ego-to-their-Soul, and Soul-to-Soul – our socio-cultural practices often neglect all the others in favor of the first relationship: between one’s own ego and that of the other person. Although this may seem like a familiar topic, it’s the authors’ acceptance of ego, and its role in our relationships, that sets this book apart.

Drawing from a wide variety of spiritual practices, religions, depth psychology, and personal experiences, Romeo and Foley urge that the ego has a necessary place in our lives as mystics – a person who is holy, or whole, due to their immersion in love whose source lies beyond the material world. The authors advocate that every one of us is capable of being a mystic through our connection to divine love. Yet, if we try to overcome or erase the ego in pursuit of some sort of “spiritual purity,” we also lose a practical connection to others in the material world.

“[I]f we negate the human realm and rely solely on the spiritual connection, we may be at risk of minimizing the (very human) importance of showing up consistently for others, being accountable for our own behavior, and owning our personal responsibility for our inner development.”7

Although I could continue to explore the ins-and-outs of the four types of relationships discussed in Holy Love, the expositional and theoretical points of this book are just one aspect. Going hand-in-hand with discussion of the four relationships and their interplay are exercises at the end of almost every chapter in the book. These range from meditations, to journaling exercises, to conversations and activities with others. Holy Love goes even further than other books in that it also provides links to online resources, such as recorded meditations, created by the authors. This is a fantastic little bonus, as I find that listening to a meditation is usually a much more effective way to ease the monkey mind than trying to meditate while reading the text!

Even though such exercises are often found in books on spiritual development, Romeo and Foley take special care to construct the practical application of their approach around a central practice – journaling to one’s (or even another person’s) Soul. While a journaling practice can take many forms, I have rarely come across one which so heavily employs dialogue between the different aspects of the Self. I was thrilled to see that this really highlights Elisa’s background in depth psychology, where it is important for the distinct parts of the individual work toward integration, rather than subjugation, repression, etc.

From the personal accounts that appear throughout the book, directly writing and responding to the Soul creates the open, receptive state of being which enables us to hear the voice that is so often overshadowed by the ego. Instead of journaling to simply release emotional tension or clarify one’s thoughts and feelings, proposing questions directly to one’s Soul creates the space for the Soul itself to answer. Over time, this practice seems to reduce the interference from the ego, and its many surface-level concerns, allowing our Soul to grow stronger in its own voice and balance out the four relationships between ourselves and our partners.

Although the four types of relationships form the central theme of Holy Love, there are several chapters dedicated to the different ways to meet and communicate with the other’s Soul. I think this approach really helps to focus on the types of relationships which are more lacking in the contemporary world. By approaching communication with the Soul (one’s own, or that of one’s partner) from a variety of perspectives and modalities, we are presented with an open arena in which to explore the best route to strengthen these relationships.

Overall, I think Holy Love is a brilliant book to help couples develop their relationship along multiple dimensions. Even if you are not currently in a romantic relationship, this book is still worth the read, as it has more than enough material to assist in aligning the relationship between your own ego and Soul. Through practical examples, exercises, and relatable experiences, Romeo and Foley offer us fantastic guidance for how we might all realize the unlimited degree to which love can flow through us and into the world.